7 trick how to use body language to be more likeable
7 trick how to use body language to be more likeable
There is no doubt that body language is important
And, according to Leil Lowndes in his book "How to Talk to Anyone," he can capture, and retain, anyone's attention without even saying a word.
We have selected the best body language techniques in the book and share them below:
The smile of the flood
"Do not show an immediate smile when you greet someone," says Lowndes. If you do, it seems that someone in your line of sight would receive that same smile.
Instead, stop and look at the other person's face for a second, and then let "a large, warm, sensitive smile flow over your face and spill into your eyes."
Although the delay is less than a second, it will convince people that their smile is sincere and personalized for them. According to Lowndes, a slower smile can add more richness and depth to the way people perceive it.
Sticky eyes
"Imagine that your eyes are glued to those of your conversation partner with sticky and warm," advises Lowndes. Even after they have finished talking, do not break eye contact. "When you should look away, do it slowly, reluctantly, stretching the sticky candy until the small rope finally breaks." This technique will help you appear more intelligent and insightful.
You can also try to count the flickers of your interlocutor. In a case study, subjects reported significantly greater feelings of respect and affection for colleagues who used this technique.
Epoxy eyes
In a group of people, you should observe the person you are interested in, no matter who else is talking. If you concentrate on that person even when they are simply listening, you show that you are extremely interested in their reactions.
The pivot of the big baby
People are very aware of how you react to them. When you meet someone new, turn your body completely towards them and pay the same undivided attention you would give to a baby. Lowndes says: "Turning 100% towards the new person shouts: 'I think you're very, very special.'"
Limit the Fidget
If you want to appear credible, try not to move too much when your conversation really matters. "Do not move, do not wiggle, shake, twist or scratch," says Lowndes. Frequent movements of the hands near your face can give your listener the feeling of being lying or anxious. Instead, simply fix a constant gaze on the listener and show him that he is completely focused on the issue at hand.
Hang from your teeth
This visualization trick will help you to be more confident with your posture, which Lowndes describes as "your most successful barometer." To do this, visualize a leather drill that hangs from the frame of each door that passes through. Pretend that you are biting your teeth, and let your cheeks form a smile and lift it up.
"When you hang your teeth," says Lowndes, "every muscle is stretched in a perfect posture position." Your head will stay high, your shoulders back, your torso off your hips and your feet weightless.
This trick also works because of the frequency with which people walk through the doors. If you see something often enough, it becomes a habit. "The usual good posture is the first mark of a great winner."
Hello old friend
When you meet someone, imagine that he is your old friend. According to Lowndes, this will cause many subconscious reactions in your body, from the softening of your eyebrows to the position of your fingers.
An additional benefit of this technique is that when you act as if you like someone, it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy: you could really start to like it. Lowndes says: "What comes down to this is that love breeds love, as it engenders, respect generates respect."
