5 reasons why you complain is ruining your life and crushing your happiness
5 reasons why you complain is ruining your life and crushing your happiness
It is easy to justify our complaints simply as a relief. Or in more deceived minds, it could even be seen as a healthy way to motivate people to make the necessary changes. But complaining about a long period of time only prevents us from moving forward and prevents us from being truly happy.
Here is why you should stop complaining so it does not ruin your life.
1) Stop complaining because it keeps us stuck in the past.
Abraham Lincoln failed several times. In 1832, he was defeated in his quest to enter the legislature of the state of Illinois. That was just the beginning of his failures. He failed in business, in becoming the speaker of the House of Representatives and the Senate twice before he finally managed to be elected president.
We know he fought depression, so these failures could easily have deterred him from having any level of success. No one would have blamed him for sitting down after a long day dividing rails, complaining about all the things he would have done or could have done.
However, if that had been his attitude, he would never have become president. All leadership has setbacks and momentary failures. We must not allow those things to define us. Accept the setback, learn from it and then press as fast as possible.
Stop complaining! It will not push your past mistakes or other difficulties. Failure follows complaints.
2) Complaining keeps us stuck in the trial.
While we are busy pointing our fingers at others, those who change the real world are making a difference. Whether it is a choice or a business failure, if we consider that everyone else is at fault, nothing is being done.
Why? To be honest, we can not change anyone. Our control is really limited to ourselves. If you want to improve your own life, it is up to you to make changes. The easiest change is simply to transform your attitude. We must overcome what others have said or done.
Stop complaining! Discard old mistakes and move on to succeed in the future. Unhooking pushes us towards the goal.
3) It prevents us from being capricious in the present.
David Rutherford, the former Navy Seal, refers to the overwhelming sense of hopelessness that often haunts us, the negative insurgency. It seems that he approached us stealthily and knocked us down in an instant. When we do not stop complaining, we feed the insurgency and it gets stronger.
When we choose to become capricious, we feed the forces of good. We encourage and motivate ourselves to move towards a better life. Find humor in those negative situations.
Five years in a row, my family went camping in the same place. Regardless of what the latest weather application said, we knew it was going to rain simply because we were camping.
Five years in a row, our prediction turned out to be true. In the third year, we came prepared with umbrella hats and warned the other campers that it would surely rain. We expected them to be prepared. We made it fun. Of course, most people hate camping in the rain. But the rain has made a great story for our family that will be transmitted for many generations.
Why complain? Look for humor in a situation. Embrace the suck. The truth is that the worse the situation is, the better the story will be when everything is said and done. While we would have had fun with the perfect weather, we would not be talking even ten years later. Pain does it better, somehow.
4) Complaints prevent us from looking to the future.
Complaining makes your world very small.
The negativity puts all your life in a small box with a past shape that prevents you from dreaming and loving the future. One of the greatest joys that I constantly experience is daydreaming about the aspect of tomorrow.
When things seem to turn in the wrong direction, I imagine what life will be like when I experience success as a speaker when I pay for my house, and I own my new Jeep with the Captain America logo on the doors. But if I get stuck, I can not see any solution.
The walls are simply too close. Depression is waiting for me. The energy runs out when I can not imagine the future. Complaining brings too much fog. I can no longer find my way to those dreams that used to help me get up in the morning.
5) Stop complaining because it prevents us from having allies.
In this world, we really need other people if we are to multiply our success. Let's find others who can help us achieve great things and enjoy life.
Once I met a guy who could find the negative in any situation. If your team won the game, it would list the multiple mistakes they had made. He had the uncanny ability to notice the flaw in a painting in the room. This man was the human version of Eeyore. Nothing and nobody was good enough.
Although I had the privilege of calling this man friend, I knew he would only notice the flaws in my life. This prevented us from being close. If I was preparing to go to battle, I would not want this man by my side. Those who stop complaining will keep people at a distance consistently.
Today is a new day. Choose today to evaluate your mistakes and move on.
Stop complaining and fight for victory in your life. Remembering my childhood, I remember my great-grandmother in the hospital waiting room. We took turns to visit my great-grandfather who was in the last hours of his life. While we were all moaning and moaning, he looked us in the eyes and said with a strong German accent: "You must be optimistic".
That has become a battle cry in my soul that prevents me from being trapped by the negative insurgency that wants to get me out. Today, I will refuse to complain. Instead, I will be optimistic and I will work to improve our world.
