Good reasons why you should stop complaining

3 good reasons why you should stop complaining

Until recently, I complained about everything.   Yes, I was a complainer.

And it was not until I decided to stop complaining until I realized how annoying and useless it was.   Because when you complain,   not only not these solving the problem, but you're making it look bigger than it really is Sometimes, some things are out of our control and we have to let them be.

But other times, when you can do something about it, it's better to get away from the situation a bit until you can get some clarity about the situation and start acting.

The reason why I complained so much is that I wanted to feel validated.   But in many ways, I was acting like a victim.   And even more, I felt like a victim.   Complaining about something makes you feel trapped, hopeless and trapped.   As if it were out of your hands.

But is not.

YOU ARE NOT SHUTDOWN, WITHOUT HOPE OR TREATY.   YOU CAN FEEL THAT WAY BECAUSE YOU CHOOSE TO BE.

You can not expect to talk about circles until things get better.   You have to improve them, and I think that's the hard part.

When you have played the role of the victim all your life, it is very difficult to get out of it (speaking from experience).   But until you do, you will keep running on the hamster wheel asking, "Why is this happening to me?"

The truth is that bad things happen to everyone, but you are so focused on yourself that you think it is only happening to you.

I discovered that the most effective way to stop complaining is: the next time something happens and you're about to tell someone,   do not do it.   Do not tell anybody.   I'm not saying that you repress all your emotions, but let you cool for a couple of hours or days.   Instead of being reactive to everything, just let things be.

And it will be very difficult to do this at the beginning, especially because we live in an era of instant gratification.

When we complain, we want to feel validated.   We want someone to say "Oh, yes, your pain is so horrible" and then, the next time something happens, we want someone to agree with how horrible our lives are that, ironically, you end up attracting more.

The more you complain, the more horrible your life will be.   We attract more of the energy that we are sending to the world and the energy that we are allowing, and that is why we are the average of the 5 people with whom we spend more time.

1. TAKE TIME.

This could be the time that is invested in reaching a solution, taking action and working on more important things.   When we complain, we are spending not only our time but also our energy and attention.   If you have not noticed yet, we only have a lot of time, energy and attention in one day.

 2. MISERY LOVES THE COMPANY.

When people complain about how much they hate their job after work, it is difficult to be that person who loves their job.   Or even like your job.   Do you really want to spend more than 40 hours a week hating your life and spending more than 10 hours a week talking about how much you hate your job?   Does not that seem a bit ... ridiculous and silly?   Also, have you ever noticed how much people like to compete over who has it?   Why are we having a competition about this?   What's so great about "having the worst"?   A little food for thought.

3. YOU ARE ADDITION TO FEELING BAD.

And you love playing the victim.   I know, because he used to be that person.   Negativity is really addicted, but I can tell you that it is not fun to feel powerless and hopeless.   Taking action and empowering yourself is much better, really.   You do not have to live life in a certain way because another person told you that this is "just as life is";   Life is, literally, what you choose to be.

 4. AFFECTS ALL AREAS OF YOUR LIFE.

Because we really can not compartmentalize our lives.   Your career affects your family, your family affects your health, your health affects your finances, etc. Everything is part of life and can not separate one thing from another. Then, when you feel miserable for one thing and you allow yourself to complain about how horrible that thing is, suddenly, you feel horrible about everything.   Suddenly, everything seems horrible.

I challenge you to turn the mirror and ask yourself the following question:

"How and what can I do now to change my life?"

You have no one but you to make this happen.