3 good reasons why you should stop complaining
3 good reasons why you should stop complaining
When living our daily life, it is often easy to look around and blame the world for our problems. Common complaints include:
The bad economy is preventing me from living comfortably.
My relationship with my spouse is putting a strain on my performance at work.
They constantly treat me badly for friends and family.
While it is true that there are things in the outside world that we can not control, the biggest difference between two people is simply their reaction to it. Having understood this for a while, I have often asked the question, "How?"
How is it possible to change your reaction to a particular event or situation?
While I always looked for tips to discover how to make my life easier, what I observed in my own character was that things became much easier once I understood why we should stop complaining and change our reaction towards things. Because once I really understood the benefits of this, my motivation to change increased.
Then, why should I stop complaining? Here are three reasons why I believe that, if you really understand them, they will help you move on and live a less stressful life:
I challenge you to turn the mirror and ask yourself the following question:
"How and what can I do now to change my life?"
You have no one but you to make this happen.
So the next time you feel like complaining, do not do it. Take a deep breath (in fact, breathe several times and move away).
Take time to refresh yourself and really feel your emotions. Be good with feeling uncomfortable.
After a while, you will begin to feel more grounded, calm and have the ability to make better decisions.
When living our daily life, it is often easy to look around and blame the world for our problems. Common complaints include:
The bad economy is preventing me from living comfortably.
My relationship with my spouse is putting a strain on my performance at work.
They constantly treat me badly for friends and family.
While it is true that there are things in the outside world that we can not control, the biggest difference between two people is simply their reaction to it. Having understood this for a while, I have often asked the question, "How?"
1. The world does not owe you anything.
It really is true! The world really has nothing to do with you or anyone on this planet. There are no rules beyond the expectations of society, and it is up to you to do something of the chaos that is the natural order. The planet will continue to exist without you in it, which, however depressing it may seem, should also provide you with emotion and a first glimpse of the reality of what your life should really be.
Through this, questions like: "If the world is irrelevant, who is in charge of my life?" And "What will happen to my life from this point forward?"
Suddenly, you begin to realize that while we were taking care of ourselves and taking care of children, this is not the case once we are adults. The world does not provide us with the same blanket of comfort that our caregivers once provided, which means only one thing: it is up to us to provide that blanket for ourselves and for no one else. Which brings me to the second reason ...
2. You are in charge of your own life.
If you look back on your own life, you will begin to realize that everything you have done up to the present moment was a result of the decisions you made. Of course, there may be people around you who have convinced you to do some of the things you could have done. But, ultimately, everything depends on your decisions and no one else: Who should be really blamed?
You really have control. Suddenly, there is nobody else to blame but to yourself.
You begin to see that between everything that happens around you, what you have is a blank canvas. Suddenly, your hopes and dreams are not dreams at all but are within the scope of the possible.
What are your dreams? What are your hopes and goals for the future? Do you have a plan? Start thinking about what could be and remember every day that it is up to you to make things happen.
3. You can not be a leader if you behave like a victim.
Do you prefer to live a life with rules, or lead a life that is governed by you? I'm sure the answer is simple.
It is really easy to blame the things that are external to you, as it avoids personal responsibility and allows you to reject the possibility that you may have things that can be changed. So, what can you change?
Being a leader in your life requires courage and requires the willingness to face your fears, experience failure and take full personal responsibility for everything that happens to you. It will break your ego and build a new one: one of the strengths of character, humility, and humility.
I challenge you to turn the mirror and ask yourself the following question:
"How and what can I do now to change my life?"
