27 body language tricks that make you instantly friendly and Likeable
27 body language tricks that make you instantly friendly
and Likeable
The right attitude makes you instantly friendly
Have you wanted to be more pleasant, more successful, more desirable in your professional or even personal life?
And at the same time, did he hesitate to learn the secrets of how to be all those things because he thought that meant that he had to be "manipulative" or, in any case, false?
Well, you do not have to worry about that. The truth is that you are sending "persuasive signals" all day, why not choose to be aware of what you are doing?
The positive power of persuasion
Being persuasive means that you can create positive interactions and relationships, and these body language tips will help you do it.
Manipulation, on the other hand, is when people "cheat" others to act against their own interest, which is the furthest thing from your mind at this time.
Persuasion: creating positive interactions and relationships.
Manipulation: deceiving others to act against their own interest.
People who manipulate try to do things like cheat drunken wives or people who buy expensive products that are worthless.
On the other hand, when you become a teacher of positive persuasion, you would use your skills to make sure that the drunken wife herself is at home with her family or friends.
In the first seconds, a primitive instinct deeply embedded in all of us makes us:
Scan your eyes
Check posture
Take care of your hands (empty or not)
Analyze respiratory rate, nervousness etc.
Take a second fraction of a decision between security or the danger.
And we do it automatically and unconsciously.
What most people do not realize is that their attitude will unconsciously determine their body language.
Your attitude will subtly provide your body with subtle signals about whether you are friendly or hostile, open-hearted or suspicious, superior or submissive, or simply that you feel you are the same as a person.
Therefore, to truly master body language, it is essential, to begin with, your intentions and how they affect your body's signaling.
Tip # 1 How to convey attention and eliminate nervousness
So much nervous energy comes from our social anxiety about whether someone loves us or not.
The fastest way to transmit goodwill and relaxation:
Put all your attention on the other person.
With a silence, pay attention to its nuances, its tonalities.
Listen behind their words what illuminates them, what scares them, what inspires them, what worries them.
Ask deeper questions. All humans carry pain and pain and we all wear a mask to cover them. Listen to the real me behind the mask.
Everyone wants to be seen, and seen with compassion.
Tip # 2 How to treat everyone like a friend
People can feel immediately if you are hostile or friendly, so it is better to take the saying "innocent until proven otherwise" until "I will treat you like a friend until you prove you should not".
How?
An effective "trick" of body language is to nod slightly as they talk.
They will feel your goodwill and a subtle sense of kinship as if they were on your side.
Then, take a moment before answering, indicating that you have thought about your answer.
They will feel worthy.
Tip # 3 How to be a Go-Giver
In our culture, we like to "go and find", which is a great quality that generates wealth and innovation. But when it comes to creating instant rapport, be a "donor."
Do something good for someone. Ask them if you can get them a drink. Grab your coat. Introduce them to someone they would like to meet.
If you do only one small action in their name, they do it in the background: you are an ally in this world.
Tip # 4 The power of touch
Everyone wants to feel special.
We all have our stories, our triumphs, our tales of grief and glory. And even if we do not admit it, we love it when people are interested in our unique life.
So be radically curious when you meet people.
Find the gems of your life: what you love most, what you are most proud of.
When they talk about a difficulty, they simply reflect that back with: "It seems like it was difficult."
When they tell a story of triumph, raise them with the hand up and take them with a high fist, which adds a solid physical contact as a kind of "punctuation mark".
They will feel much more connected with you.
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Or if you feel more comfortable with a more subtle touch, a small physical contact in a warm moment of emotional connection creates a deep and sincere connection.
Studies show, for example, that restaurant server that touches the shoulder or arm of diners tip 27% higher.
So you can say that a light touch in a warm moment of sympathy or communion makes you 27% more pleasant!
The power of the correct posture
Just as you are sending subtle but unmistakable signals of "security/hostility" to your body about your attitude, so your posture is a true telegraph machine.
The position is particular because it conveys special attention, which means that a person will feel that you are paying attention or not, depending on your position.
Tip # 5 How to stand straight and relaxed
When you are calm and relaxed, you automatically relax the person you are talking to.
Good posture:
When your spine is straight and relaxed, they will naturally match your state and relax, which makes each interaction easier and friendlier.
So here is a ballerina's suggestion for an attentive posture: imagine a rope tied to the crown (the top point, towards the back) of your head, gently pulling your skull upwards at that point, which should lengthen your neck and straighten your spine.
Keep your shoulders low and relaxed, and you are the walking incarnation of a nice, relaxed and available friend.
Poor posture:
If your spine is crooked or you are changing weight from hip to hip, you are likely to wonder why you are so tense.
If you exceed your relaxed posture and fall forward, you will feel like you want to go to sleep, be somewhere else or feel bored or exasperated.
Tip # 6 How to appear open and helpless
Think about what you do when you are angry at someone, or outraged or disappointed. What do you do?
You fold your arms over your chest.
Crossing the arms over the chest is an expression of self-defense of body language, much like holding a shield over the heart.
When you do that socially, you are sending a signal that you do not feel safe and, therefore, "accuse" your interlocutor of being a threat, even if it is a subtle level.
Therefore, keep your arms relaxed and to one side.
Tip # 7 When you're sitting, sit up straight
Just like your standing posture, as mentioned above, keep your spine straight, your neck elongated and alert when you are talking to someone.
When you crouch on your chest, it feels protective, as if you do not trust the person you are with.
Once you establish that level of confidence and attention transmitted, you can, of course, lean and touch them gently on your leg, shoulder or arm to emphasize or bond when you exchange emotional or fun moments.
Tip # 8 keep up its hip width separate feet
An important part of being loved is being trusted.
And being reliable means that you feel grounded and stable and that you will not go around at any second!
If it wobbles, or bounces on its feet, or wobbles with all its weight on one foot, it creates a feeling of restlessness and instability. Imagine an Executive, a President or a General.
They remain solid.
For what it should.
Tip # 9 Breathe to the point just below your belly
Deep breathing is compatible with a strong and vertical spine and a relaxed posture. Superficial breathing, on the other hand, connotes nervousness.
If you take short, sharp breaths, people tend to ask, "Why are you so nervous? What are you hiding? What bothers this guy?
So, especially if you are nervous in some way or have social anxiety, just breathe three times (inhaling in a count of four) and visualize how it crosses you through your chest to the depth of your abdomen, just below your abdomen. button.
Hold your breath for a moment and let your account slowly count four times. Your body will relax naturally.
And people will relax with you.
Tip # 10. How to duplicate and match your posture
Like attracts like.
It's an old tribal truth.
Instantly we feel more comfortable with people who move, dress and look like us. So, one thing you can do to create a quick sense of relationship is, very subtly, to match or reflect the position of the person you are talking to.
When you lean, you lean. When they recline, you lean back.
When they straighten, you straighten up. It has a powerful and often imperceptible effect of creating closeness and trust.
Tip # 11 Stay calm
One of the most "unworthy" exhibits of body language is restlessness and unnecessary movement.
You already know that this is true. Someone who is jumping from one foot to the other, wringing his hands, twisting his fingers, this unnecessary nervous energy suggests that they want to get out of there as soon as they can!
Or at least they do not feel comfortable with themselves.
Then, for others to feel comfortable with you, try to stay still, even if it is not robotic. Move slowly and gently and keep your fingers from moving.
How to make a great first impression
For better or for worse, we all make instant judgments at the moment we meet.
As the saying goes, "first impressions last forever."
For example, I still remember meeting a teacher 30 years ago who had bad breath. I do not care what he wrote! When I think of him, my dominant thought is over his manhole.
So yes, wash your teeth, Keep your body clean and smelling of wildflowers on a spring day in Colorado, if you can. Or, at least, not as a garbage man.
Here are some more practical tips that do not involve the smell of how to create a positive first impression.
Tip # 12 How to "own the room"
Naturally, we feel that people who are rushing, are heading down, do not care about us.
We feel, rightly, that they are in a world of their own.
However, this is how many people enter a room.
To draw attention to yourself as a powerful, confident, open-hearted person, stop at any door when you enter a room and "breathe" into the room.
Just take everything and everyone inside. Evaluate what is happening. Feel the energy. Feel where people connect and where they do not.
By doing this, you are establishing yourself as someone who is important (the eyes will look at you) and who treats all those who are before you as important. You are showing that you are taking the room seriously.
The fools hurry.
Intelligent and confident people move with confidence, confidence, and awareness of their environment.
Tip # 13 Smile while you enter
Mother Teresa said, "the peace Start with a smile. " And she is right.
People immediately want to be close to someone who smiles, because people are naturally attracted to joy and good feeling.
When you enter a room when you go to greet someone, when you see the world around you, try to smile a little more.
You will find that people feel suddenly and noticeably more attracted to you.
Tip # 14 Greet someone immediately
It has been said that good friends are those who "worry without hesitation".
When you enter a room or someone enters and clearly does not know anyone, do not hesitate, come to them and say hello.
When you get into the flow of a room, when you are inclusive without obvious expectations or demands, people realize.
You can immediately feel that you are open, self-confident and kind.
Tip # 15. How to show appreciation with your body
Each culture is different. Here, when we say hello, we shake hands and say "hello."
In Japan, one bows. In India, the word of greeting, Namaste literally means "I see the divine within you".
Everyone wants to be appreciated, so when you greet someone or offer a verbal appreciation, you have the opportunity to "add punctuation" with a bow or with the "hands of prayer" together to thank them.
You can touch your heart with an open palm while offering appreciation.
Or you can touch a person's hand, arm or shoulder while offering appreciation, depending on your comfort or level of intimacy.
How to be reliable and more pleasant With the right handshake
You know and I know that he is not hiding a dagger in his right hand, which is the danger that originated the habit of offering his hand in a handshake when greeting.
However, the way you shake hands will clearly transmit your energy, your confidence and your relationship with them.
Tip # 16. How to offer a handshake firm but soft
You know the impact of a limp handshake.
You wonder if this person has some spine, some confidence, any presence. And you tend not to trust them.
Similarly, if you crush your hand, you suspect that you are trying too hard to establish dominance, and you will not like or trust them.
Your handshake should be firm but gentle. He must show confidence without the need to impress or dominate.
Ideally, you should take a person's hand completely in yours and hold it as firmly as you would with a tennis racket.
That is a reliable handshake. And remember, the reliable is nice.
Tip # 17 Keep eye contact while shaking
What happens with body language is that everything adds up.
People tend to feel a "vibe" rather than making decisions in a single bodily gesture, so see how you can combine sympathetic signals.
For example, when you shake hands, keep eye contact constantly instead of looking over your shoulder at the next "most important" person or look down.
Tip # 18 Now add a smile
Shake firmly, maintain eye contact.
. now add a slight smile. Studies show that a slow smile is considered more authentic and warm than a "rigid" or forced smile.
The key differentiators: let your smile spread slowly, and let wrinkles appear next to your eyes.
Tip # 19 Should you use a second hand?
While a single handshake should be enough, if you want to show more warmth, appreciation or joy when you meet someone (for example, whom you have been waiting to meet for a long time); use your second hand
You can gently enclose the back of the hand with it or hold the forearm lightly.
This tends to convey an extra friendship to the person before you and focuses on it.
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Tip # 20 Stand directly in front of them
Body positioning is a science in itself.
When you stand in front of someone and you make sure that your body is "pointing" to your conversation partner, it can indicate that your focus is 100% on them.
On the contrary, if you deviate slightly and your feet or body point to the side, you can transmit fear, insecurity, and distrust.
Tip # 21 Stand next to them
On the other hand, if you are physically large, or if the person opposite you tends towards the introvert, you can create a comforting feeling of "us against the world" by standing next to them and watch the hustle and bustle of a social environment through Of their eyes.
It has been said wisely that love does not look into your eyes all the time, but that you share a vision of the world and the future together.
There is truth in this to create a sense of friendship and camaraderie as well.
Tip # 22. Do not lean on or against objects
You want to stand solidly on your feet.
When it rests on or against an object (for example, a wall or a piece of furniture) it means passivity and possibly insecurity.
Suggest subconsciously that you can not stop on your own.
Whenever possible, stay erect and with good posture. As we reviewed above, with the feet separated at the height of the hip, the crown of the head up and sitting like a crown on his straight column, with his arms comfortably at his side and breathing deeply.
The secrets of pleasant facial expressions
The TV show Lie to Me, based on the work of Paul Ekman, has popularized public awareness about the number of messages created by our subconscious microexpressions.
There are hundreds of tiny muscles in your face, especially around your eyes and mouth, and they create a complete communication language.
However, most people are not aware of what they are saying.
Here are some tips to make sure your face is communicating what you want
Tip # 23 beam of you neutral face a happy face
It's the luck of the draw.
The resting face of some people is a smile. For others, it is neutral. For others, it is a smile.
He may be transmitting ill humor or disgust without intending to do so.
So look in a mirror and ask your friends to reflect what they feel you are saying with your face at rest.
If necessary, practice a little more smile, a little more happiness, a little more frankness and pay attention to how others respond.
Tip # 24. The power of a fixed eye
When you talk to someone, keep eye contact.
Restless eyes suggest that you have something to hide, that you feel some kind of embarrassment and that, therefore, you do not want them to look at you directly.
Therefore, maintain eye contact as long as possible.
Do not break it too fast, but in a natural pause, interrupts the eye contact naturally, so you do not get so weird.
Tip # 25. Smile often and genuinely
There are complete books written about the subtleties and the evolutionary purposes of the smile.
Let's keep it simple: an authentic smile is a way of saying "I'm safe". I like you. We are on the same team. "
What people do not trust is the sudden false smile that appears on the face and disappears with the same rapidity.
Let your smile spread slowly and stay, and then dissolve slowly with the same naturalness.
Advice on body language during the conversation
Body language is not just about entering a room or talking from the stage. That should be clear for now.
So let's review a couple of the best ways to create and maintain the connection during conversations.
Tip # 26 Reflect your movements
Once you are talking, there are several ways to create a relationship with your partner.
One of the most effective is to subtly reflect your movements. Not enough to be obvious, but enough to create that "you're like me" feeling.
So if you are relaxed, you can relax more.
If you are erect and attentive, you can pay more attention to your attention and adapt to your posture.
If you recline, you can lie down, and when you lean to be confessional or intimate, you lean toward them.
These slight combined movements create a subconscious feeling of familiarity, which the brain interprets as sympathy.
Tip # 27 Listen actively
I'm sure you can imagine how unpleasant and cold it feels when you talk to someone and they stare at you, their faces stone.
So let your face and body show that you are listening and that you care.
You can nod slightly as you speak to let them know you agree or follow their words closely.
You can lean a little to let them know that sometimes you are listening with special attention.
This tends to make people feel safe and appreciated.
And he can make emphatic hand gestures (a fist in the air, a thumb towards above, a silent clap) to show that you are on board with your point and your intentions.
These techniques are particularly useful for introverts or people who are generally less expressive.
They create camaraderie and a feeling of being on the same team.
In short, anyway, you send hundreds of body language signals every day.
People can not help noticing the signals they send, just as you can not avoid sending them. It is connected to us as human beings to pay attention and pay attention, even if we do not know that we are paying attention.
The vast, vast majority of communication takes place below the surface, beyond our conscious minds, in our subconscious. We notice contractions, tics, and stories without consciously aware of them.
All these small signals are counted and unconsciously recorded in the brain. And the final result?
A strong impression, one way or another.
Especially when you meet someone for the first time, these signs unconsciously notice whether you are received openly or with suspicion, with warmth or with a cold distance.
But now that you know these 27 secrets, you have a lot of powerful and effective ways to create friendship, sympathy, and influence with others.
Take control of what was not noticed before and was subconscious, and take the impressions of other people about you.
You are no longer a slave to subconscious programming. Instead, you have total control, are in charge and are aware of how to present yourself to not only make a good impression, but also a warm and genuine connection full of positive consideration.
Do not go creating something of good will, and happy communicating.
